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3 things to review every 3 months to break your family's dependency on screens
# 1 Review the top 5 screen time conversations
Your goal should be to foster a relationship with your child so if they see something or experience something online that makes them uncomfortable that no matter what they can come and talk to you. This even includes if they see something on YouTube and they know they are not supposed to be watching YouTube. What needs to be the most important is they feel safe to come to you otherwise these things are stored up in their emotions and in their brain and can be mirrored in real-life actions.
Before you have the conversation checklist:
Make sure you are in the right mind set so that you do not react but respond to what your child might share with you. Make sure you have enough time and be fully present. It might be good to have the conversation in the car, shooting hoops, or taking a walk. It is best not to have these conversations in the heat of the moment.
Approach with curiosity and empathy without judgment on their response. Remember this is a conversation that you can build on over time.
You can expand on the questions below by being a little more specific with these examples: bullying, threats, self-harm, gossip, violence, nudes, porn, racism, and any topic you are concerned about.
You can expand on a range of emotions your children might experience. Use different works that might help your child connect with the question better. For example, didi you feel sad, confused, interested, and others as age appropriate.
You could also be specific with where they experienced these situations for example, social media, YouTube, TikTok.
Online Relationship Awareness:
A lot of time we hear about the pedophiles and the adults that we need to be concerned about playing online with our children. But there are also other relationships happening that are very complex and that can cause harm to your child’s emotional well-being.
Sometimes your child will feel trapped being in these types of relationships because they are too afraid to be canceled. They don’t wanna be blocked by others in the group or be made fun of when they are not online. It is very complex being an online relationship where children feel they have to participate at a different level than they would an in-person relationship.
Grooming can be a long process and it can be done by teens and adults and sometimes multiple people are involved. I child can feel like they are a “friend” within hours so talking to them about strangers doesn’t always sink in the way we think it should.
Sadfishing is when a person in a group tries to be the most dramatic to win the group over to feel sorry for them. This could include them telling detailed stories of self-harm, suicidal ideology, things that have happened to them in the past, or personal family situations. They can lure your child into a very emotional codependent relationship leaving your child feeling extremely overwhelmed, overly responsible for that person’s safety, and unable to cope.
Online drama dating occurs when someone intentionally sets out to connect with another person within a group only to later stock them follow them and embarrass them by their peers within the group. This person will usually come back with an apology and then do it again. The child is left feeling emotionally distraught may stop going online for a short while and become very emotional.
Fast paced friendships These are people that bond quickly with your child through instant gratification and achievement. For example they will help your child win levels, give then game money, skins, dances, cloths that are traded in the games. Your child will develop a quick relationship and will be convinced they are a "real" friend and might lie to you to convince you too. The other person might even give your child so much personal details about them that your child "unknowingly" (in the middle of a game) starts sharing personal information with them too.
The Top 5 Questions:
Have you SEEN anything that has made you feel uncomfortable or goes against our family values?
Have you SAID anything that could make someone feel uncomfortable or do you feel bad for saying it?
Have you SENT anything that could make someone feel uncomfortable or have you felt uncomfortable for sending it?
Have you READ anything that could be inappropriate or made you feel like it was wrong or not a good to read?
Have you ASKED or been ASKED for something that has made you feel uncomfortable?
#2 Review TRIM Back Family Screen Time Agreement
The 4 Phases of the TRIM Back Family Screen Time Agreement
If you would like more information about creating a family screen time agreement, please use the calendar below to book an appointment with me for more information.
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Time & Tech Awareness
Become more aware of how your family is spending their time on screens so that you can identify areas where they can become more purposeful and cut back.
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Reestablishing Family Connection
Discover your family's communication style, how they receive love, and the top 5 values so that you can become more mindful of your time and the app choices your family makes.
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Identify Influencer Impact
Uncover who is influencing your child behind the screen, how to redirect them to be intentional with who they follow, and who they relate with online.
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Manage Expectations
Gain insight into how the device impacts family members and how to manage expectations, negative reactions, and setbacks when cutting back screen time.
# 3 Review the 6 layers of screen time settings
The 6 Layers of Screen Time Settings:
There are multiple layers that you may need to ad parent settings to make sure your children are safe on screens.
If you need more information about these layers and how to set them up please reach out to me and I can help you evaluate what setting will work best for your family.
Internet Access Points: Data, WiFi Router, Free WiFi
Secondary Access: Proxy Server, Bluetooth, Hot Spots, VPN
Operating Systems: Google/Android, iOS, MS Windows
Devices: Cell Phones, Smart Watches, Smart TV, PC, Laptops, tablets, Smart Appliance, and More (Old devices you forgot about)
Streaming and Game Systems: Roku, Fire Stick, Chrome, Apple TV, Cable, PS4, XBOX, Nintendo, and More
Apps: Over 1,000,000 APS!
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